When children reach 3 years old, they look like mini teenagers who want to always be right but at the same time have a look so sweet that it softens your heart in any situation. We cannot lose sight of the fact that there are strange but normal things in 3-year-olds, and that you have to know them!
They want to show that they are capable but at the same time remain highly dependent on the reference adults, and this is normal and okay! They may also have somewhat disconcerting behaviors that are absolutely normal.
Strange but normal behaviors in a 3-year-old
If your child shows any of these behaviors, do not worry because it is neither to get angry nor to throw his hands to his head. They are children who are learning, experimenting and who need your guidance and all your unconditional love to continue learning about their immediate environment.
They look for treasures in the nose
Yes, they stick their fingers up their noses, they pick up mucus and sometimes they eat it or they end up bloody from picking. This is normal behavior. It may be because they itch, out of curiosity or simply because they seem tasty.
If your three-year-old sticks his fingers up his nose a lot and pulls his snot out so many times that you start to worry … just when he does, signal him to stop. You probably stick your finger up your nose out of inertia and don’t even realize you’re doing it.
Little tantrums they have …
At two they have tantrums, yes, but at three they are even more powerful and intense. They do not care where to do them or who is watching them. If they have an intense emotion they have to unload it to be noticed and that you realize once and for all the disgust they feel.
He still does not know how to calm those intense emotions and for that reason, any reason for frustration can be an emotional apocalypse. It is normal and you do not have to be angry and much less punish him … they are not challenging you! They just show how they feel!
In these situations the best thing you can do is “be”. Do not move away but give him enough space so that your child can express his emotions but without feeling emotionally abandoned. Make him see that when he calms down you will listen to what is happening to him and you will find a solution. Validate his emotions, understand him … you have to show a calm and firm attitude, and of course, never negatively reinforce the behavior to prevent it from occurring more times in the future.
Perhaps you have ever felt chills run down the back of your neck when you saw your little treasure talking to the wall or lending colored pencils to “someone” to paint with. Perhaps you have also seen him have a whole conversation with a being that you cannot see.
Children at this age often have imaginary friends and you shouldn’t be scared, and you shouldn’t stop them from having them. Don’t be angry when he talks to himself and let his imagination continue to enjoy that juicy conversation about colors to paint.
It usually happens when young children see other children who have imaginary friends or simply because they want to have a special “friend” in their playroom. It is also normal in children who seem more mature, sociable, intuitive, imaginative, sensitive, and creative.
When a child has an imaginary friend, he may be significantly more intellectually advanced than children his age.